The Strategist

The art of saying No to find new energy

11/20/2020 - 03:32

The modern world is stunning and distracting. News come from every screen, and we have many screens. Work is exhausting and never ends. How do we stop? How do we concentrate to think things through well and make an informed decision? What secret do those who manage to stay focused and cool in almost any situation have?

You will not rush into a labyrinth. You need to stop and think about it. You need to walk slowly and carefully and curb your energy, otherwise you will hopelessly get lost. The same goes for the problems that we face in life.
You have to slow down. Stop. A recent study found that the test subjects would agree to be mildly electrocuted rather than bored for at least a few minutes. And after that we still wonder why people do so many stupid things!
Anyone who thinks they are nothing because of idleness, even for a few days, is deprived of their peace of mind. That's right, but they also close their way to a higher level of performance. From a spiritual point of view, this is difficult. In the physical aspect, it's even more difficult. You have to make yourself say "no". 
You have to look with fear and even pity at people who have become slaves to their calendar, who need ten people to manage current projects, whose life consists of running from one episode to the next. There is no peace of mind here. There is slavery.
Each of us must learn to say "no". For example, "No, sorry, I can't right now". "No, sorry, that sounds great, but no". "No, I'll wait and see." "No, I don't need this: I'm going to make the most of what I have". "No, because if I say yes to you, I'm going to have to say yes to everyone else.
In any situation, ask:
What is this?
Why does it matter?
Do I need it?
Do I want it?
What are the hidden costs?
If I look back from a distant future, will I be glad I did it?
If I didn't know anything about it, would I even notice that I had missed something?
When we know what to say "no" to, we can say "yes" to something that really matters.
Based on “Stillness Is the Key” by Ryan Holiday